“Tuning the Signal: The Frequency of Wanting vs. Having”

You don’t get what you want. You get what you are.

That’s not just a spiritual platitude—it’s frequency physics.

Every thought you think, every feeling you feel, is a broadcast. A signal. And the universe? It’s a mirror, not a genie. It doesn’t respond to words—it responds to vibration. So when we obsess over what we want—"I want love," "I need clarity," "I don’t have enough"—we’re unknowingly vibrating from a place of lack. And lack is exactly what gets reflected back.

Wanting is a Signal of Absence

Most of us live on the frequency of wanting. But the problem with wanting is that it inherently includes not having. The signal goes out like this: “I’m not enough without this thing. I’ll be complete when...” And so the universe says: “Got it. You’re incomplete. Let me send you more situations to reflect that.”

It’s a rigged radio when you’re not tuned in.

Feeling Is the Frequency

To shift your reality, you don’t force it. You feel it into being. This is the essence of manifestation—not forcing outcomes, but embodying the emotion of already having it. Not in the future, not in theory, but now. Because to the universe, “now” is the only time that exists.

When you become the frequency of love, abundance, peace, clarity—whatever you seek—you become magnetized to its mirror in the material world.

And yes, it’s a paradox. You must become grateful before the thing arrives. You must trust before there’s proof. You must feel abundant in the middle of the overdraft notice.

Ritual: Shift the Signal

If you want to shift the frequency, try this quick ritual:

Name It: What’s the desire? (Love, health, clarity, success?)
Frame It: Flip it from a wish to a truth. “I want to feel free” becomes “I am free now.”
Feel It: Sit in meditation or stillness. Breathe into your body. Feel what it would feel like if it were already true. Not conceptually—physically. Let it rise.
Amplify It: Use music, scent, a candle, movement—whatever raises your state. Anchor the frequency.
Return to It: Every day. In small ways. In big ones. Let this signal become your baseline.

A Final Note: You’re Already Broadcasting

The question isn’t if you’re broadcasting. You are. The question is—what’s the frequency?

If you don’t like what life is reflecting back to you, it might be time to retune the signal. Not to fake it. Not to bypass grief or struggle. But to shift from a frequency of wanting to a frequency of being.

Because when you embody what you seek, the universe doesn’t just take notice. It harmonizes.

Below are references to explore

Frequency & Electromagnetic Resonance

1. HeartMath Institute

Heart coherence studies show how the heart emits the largest electromagnetic field in the body, and emotions like gratitude and love shift that field into a more harmonious state—affecting not just your health, but those around you.
Source: McCraty R, Atkinson M, Tomasino D. The coherent heart: Heart-brain interactions, psychophysiological coherence, and the emergence of system-wide order. HeartMath Research Center, 2009.

2. Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Brain and Heart Coherence Work

Dispenza has shown through brain scans and EEG/fMRI studies that elevated emotions paired with clear intentions alter brainwave patterns and heart rhythms in real time—essentially changing your frequency.
Source: Dispenza J. Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon. 2017.

Neuroplasticity & Thought as a Signal

3. Norman Doidge on Neuroplasticity

Repetition and focus reshape the brain. You are not hardwired; your thoughts and emotions create new synaptic connections and prune away old ones.
Source: Doidge N. The Brain That Changes Itself. Penguin Books, 2007.

4. Barbara Fredrickson’s Broaden-and-Build Theory

Positive emotions expand our awareness, creating more neural options and possibilities, while negative emotions narrow our scope.
Source: Fredrickson B. Positive emotions broaden the scope of attention and thought-action repertoires. Cognition & Emotion. 2004.

Quantum Field & Observer Effect (for the mystics)

5. The Double-Slit Experiment

The famous quantum physics experiment where particles behave differently when observed—supporting the idea that consciousness interacts with matter.
Source: Feynman R. The Feynman Lectures on Physics. Vol. III, 1965.

6. Nassim Haramein on Unified Field Theory

More speculative, but poetic: Haramein theorizes that consciousness and vibration are intrinsic to the structure of space itself—every atom responding to harmonic input.
Source: Haramein N. The Connected Universe, 2016.

Vibration, Manifestation & Emotional Frequency

7. David R. Hawkins – Map of Consciousness

Emotional states have measurable frequencies (e.g., shame = 20 Hz, love = 500 Hz). The higher the emotion, the more coherence and life-affirming the field.
Source: Hawkins D. Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior. Hay House, 1995.

8. Abraham Hicks / Law of Attraction

The universe doesn’t respond to your words—it responds to the vibration beneath them. A classic New Thought reference for vibration = attraction.
Source: Hicks E, Hicks J. Ask and It Is Given. Hay House, 2004.